Subordinates are more likely to voice their ideas, too , to a leader with positive affective presence," notes Beck. So while I can confirm that some people really are constant energy-sucking bummers and that if you want to be a good boss you really shouldn't be one of these people, I sadly can't tell you how to improve in this area.
If more research becomes available I'll let you know though. Maybe you can pass it to your most annoying colleague. Top Stories. Top Videos. Getty Images.
Science can't figure out why some people are just so annoying. Affective presence may be mysterious but it matters. This type of person is quite similar to 4 Holier than Thou.
Most people behave like this out of fear. How often have you heard about people receiving death threats and all other flavors of online harassment because they did or said something that another person found offensive? If a person claims offense in a situation, they seize the moral high ground. The one who offended them is then forced to pander to them to make things right again.
Some people are like this because they were never given any kind of responsibility in their youth, and as such never learned how important it is to step up. Others steadfastly refuse to grow up , and have stagnated at age By you.
A lot of people are so self-involved, so engrossed in their own projects and plans that they fail to see you as an individual. This behavior is extraordinarily self-serving and inconsiderate. It reduces other people to objects, rather than individuals, and is incredibly disrespectful.
These people are incredibly selfish, and have learned that the best way to get what they want — whenever they want — is to manipulate other people. Passive-aggressiveness and guilt-tripping are two of their key methods, and they make everyone around them resentful and miserable with their behavior. This is really annoying. More so, it has the opposite effect than desired on most people, since no one wants to spend MORE time with a person who pulls this kind of crap.
A lot of people have forgotten basic interpersonal skills, and the fact that not being present with another person is unbelievably rude. We all get surprised and scared at the movies from time to time. That said, we know better than to scream, "Don't go in there! Come on. The sign overhead says 10 items! All you have to do is count up to 10! Why is this so hard?
It's fine to talk at the gym, but taking a phone call is particularly annoying. The gym is a meditative space for plenty of people, meaning that petty argument you're having with your spouse is just about the last thing they want to hear.
It takes mere seconds to replace a roll of toilet paper when you've used the last of it. If you leave an empty roll or just place a new one on top of the old one, make no mistake: You're guilty of some seriously annoying behavior.
Just because your jam comes on doesn't mean it's time to sing along. There is an even greater offense out there, however: humming. Nobody's ever thought, "This song would sound so much better if it was kind of amelodic and had no words. If you're leaving your RSVP until the last minute or not RSVPing at all, you're definitely holding up the hosts and possibly guaranteeing yourself a spot on next year's "don't invite" list.
Unless you think it's hilarious to have someone else fall into toilet water, it's time to start putting the toilet seat down—and the lid, too, for that matter.
We've all had that moment of realization while walking when we remember something we needed to do and it stops us in our tracks. Unfortunately, it's always pretty annoying for the person behind you who's forced to suddenly navigate around your stationary form or risk bumping straight into you.
That corn kernel stuck in your teeth from earlier is annoying. The only thing more annoying? Watching you pick it out. It's not always easy to tell how loud your music is when you've got your headphones on. The sound of the beat blasting out of someone else's earbuds, however, is never not incredibly irritating to hear.
Sometimes, you just don't feel like blowing your nose. But while loudly honking into a tissue isn't exactly cute, nonstop sniffing is infinitely more irritating to those around you. It's totally understandable that you'd want two armrests—you do have two arms, after all. Still, you never want to be the person who's always stealing both sides. You get one to yourself, and the other's for sharing. Whether you're slurping soup or taking big bites of a salad, we've all been guilty of eating loudly at one point or another.
And if you're a person who smacks their lips or kind of moans when something's really delicious, someone out there is definitely annoyed by your dining habits. People will do virtually anything in pursuit of the perfect Instagram photo. Regrettably, that often means taking up the entire width of a city block to do so, slowing down everybody else in the process. That may not make much sense in theory, but there's more truth there than you realize.
If somebody argues with you, it's because they legitimately care about your opinions and want to change your perspective. If people you consider your friends never push back and argue with you, even when you know that they know you're wrong, that likely means they've given up on you. Yes, most of what's on social media is fake.
As countless studies have shown, people tend to present a socially desirable reflection of themselves on sites like Facebook and Instagram. It may not be the reality, but it's the reality they want to present to the world. And if you're not included in any of it, well, that's a bad sign.
The physical touch of another human being causes our levels of oxytocin to rise , which reduces fear and increases trust, generosity, and empathy.
Refusing that contact, or insisting on the least-possible level of physical interaction, can only mean that someone is not ready or willing to feel that level of empathy and trust with you.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote, "The eyes of men converse as much as their tongues. It's a classic gesture of defensiveness, a way of creating a barrier between you and something or someone you don't particularly care for. It's the opposite of opening and welcoming.
It's saying, "No. Stay away. Whatever you're saying right now, I don't want to hear it.
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